Elder Law & Estate Planning
Request Consultation

Take These Three Steps When Your Child Turns 18

Up until your child reaches 18, you are absolutely entitled to access your child’s medical records and to make decisions regarding the course of his treatment. And, your child’s financial affairs are your financial affairs. This changes once your child reaches the age of 18 because your now-adult child is legally entitled to his privacy and you no longer have the same level of access to or authority over his financial, educational and medical information. As long as all is well, this can be fine. However, it’s important to plan for the unexpected and for your child to set up an estate plan that at least includes the following three crucial components:

Posted on August 3, 2017
Parents discussing estate planning documents with their 18-year-old child, highlighting the importance of setting up a health care proxy, financial power of attorney, and basic will.

1. Health Care Proxy with HIPAA Release

Under the Health Insurance Portability and Accountability Act, or HIPAA, once your child turns 18, the child’s health records are now between the child and his or her health care provider. The HIPAA laws prevent you from even getting medical updates in the event your child is unable to communicate his or her wishes to have you involved. Without a HIPAA release, you may have many obstacles before receiving critically needed information, including whether your adult child has even been admitted to a particular medical facility.

Should your child suffer a medical crisis resulting in the child’s inability to communicate for him or herself, doctors and other medical professionals may refuse to speak with you and allow you to make medical decisions for your child. You may be forced to hire an attorney to petition to have you appointed as your child’s legal guardian by a court. At this time of crisis, your primary concern is to ensure your child is taken care of and you do not need the additional burden of court proceedings and associated legal costs. A health care proxy with a HIPAA release would enable your child to designate you or another trusted person to make medical decisions in the event your child is unable to convey his or her wishes.

2. Durable Power of Attorney

Like medical information, your 18-year-old child’s finances are also private.  If your child becomes incapacitated, without a durable power of attorney you cannot access the child’s bank accounts or credit cards to make sure bills are being paid. If you needed to access financial accounts in order to manage or resolve any problem, you may be forced to seek the court’s appointment as conservator of your child.

Absent a crisis, a power of attorney can also be helpful in issues that may arise when your child is away at college or traveling. For example, if your son is traveling and an issue comes up where he cannot access his accounts, a durable power of attorney would give you or another trusted person the authority to manage the issue. An alternative may be to encourage your child to consider a joint account with you.  However, this is rarely recommended because of the unintended consequences for taxes, financial aid applications, creditor issues, etc.

3. Will

Your child owns any funds given to him or her as a minor or that he or she may have earned. In the catastrophic event that your child predeceases you, these assets may have to be probated and will pass to your child’s heirs at law, which in most states would be the parents. If you have created an estate plan that reduces your estate for estate tax or asset protections purposes, the receipt of those assets could frustrate your estate planning goals. In addition, your child may wish to leave some tangible property and financial assets to other family members or to charity.

While a will may be less important then the health care proxy, HIPAA release or durable power of attorney, ensuring that your child has all three components of an estate plan can prevent you, as a parent, from having to go to court to obtain legal authority to make time-sensitive medical or financial decisions for your child.

If you have a child (or grandchild) who is approaching adulthood, talk to your elder law attorney about having the child execute these three crucial documents.

More from our blog...

Person using a laptop to create a DIY estate plan online

Why DIY Estate Planning Often Fails in New Jersey and New York

January 11, 2026
Many people assume that estate planning is simple: download a template, fill in a few blanks, sign it, and move on. DIY estate planning feels…
Arrow pointing upward in the sky representing letting go of control in long-term planning

Giving Up Control With an Irrevocable Trust: What’s Really True

January 4, 2026
Many people are intrigued by the idea of an irrevocable trust, especially when they hear it can protect assets from long-term care costs, creditors, or…
Older adults holding hands while discussing estate planning decisions

Can You Disinherit a Child? Legal Rules & the $1 Myth

December 31, 2025
Many parents assume that disinheriting a child is automatically “wrong,” or that it will be viewed as cruel or unfair. In reality, the decision is…
Senior woman seated with two caregivers in a nursing home living area

How Private Equity Ownership Affects Nursing Home Care

December 23, 2025
Families searching for a nursing home often focus on location, cost, and availability, assuming that licensed facilities operate under similar standards of care. What many…
Back To blog

FREE WEBINAR

5 Things to Know About

Estate Planning

When You Turn Sixty-Five

    Save the Date

    Friday, Jan 16th at 2:30pm

    Privacy Policy

    This Privacy Statement describes how Milvidskiy Law Group P.C. collects, uses, and discloses certain personal information obtained through our public web site at www.milvidlaw.com (the “Web Site”). This Privacy Statement does not address information collection through other sources such as in-person seminars, workshops, or in-person consultations and contacts.

    SMS Privacy Policy

    Milvidskiy Law Group P.C. may disclose Personal Data and other information as follows:

    Third Parties that Help Provide the Messaging Service: We will not share your opt-in to an SMS short code campaign with a third party for purposes unrelated to supporting you in connection with that campaign. We may share your Personal Data with third parties that help us provide the messaging service, including, but not limited to, platform providers, phone companies, and other vendors who assist us in the delivery of text messages.

    Additional Disclosures: Affiliates: We may disclose the Personal Data to our affiliates or subsidiaries; however, if we do so, their use and disclosure of your Personal Data will be subject to this Policy. All the above categories exclude text messaging originator opt-in data and consent; this information will not be shared with any third parties.

    Personal Information Collection and Use

    In general, you can visit our Web Site without telling us who you are or revealing any information about yourself. There are times, however, when we ask for personally identifiable information from you, such as your name, company, e-mail address, phone number, and address (“Personal Information”). We request this information in order to correspond with you, to provide you with a subscription to a newsletter or publication, to notify you about events, or otherwise to respond to your requests or provide you with information that we consider may be of interest to you. Where applicable, we will differentiate between personal data fields that are optional and those that are mandatory to obtain the requested information.

    If you receive a marketing e-mail from Milvidskiy Law Group P.C., you will be provided with an automated way to opt out (unsubscribe) from that particular communication or from all marketing e-mails sent by our firm. Please follow the instructions on the e-mail you received. If you have received unwanted e-mail from our firm, please forward a copy of that e-mail to [email protected].

    Please note that if you reply to a Milvidskiy Law Group P.C. address in one of our marketing e-mails or otherwise send a communication to us, your communication will not create an attorney-client relationship with us. Do not send us any information that you or anyone else considers to be confidential or secret unless we have first agreed to be your lawyers in that matter. Any information you send us before we agree to be your lawyers cannot be protected from disclosure.

    Data Sharing

    We may share Personal Information among our member attorneys for purposes of responding to your requests or otherwise as necessary for the purposes described above. We may also in limited circumstances share Personal Information with government authorities or others as required to protect the interests of the firm or others, as necessary in connection with the sale or transfer of all or a portion of the business, or as required by applicable law or court order.

    International Data Transfers

    This Web Site is hosted on a web server in the United States. If you are located in a non-US jurisdiction, your provision of Personal Information or other access to our Web Site constitutes your transfer of such data to the United States, a jurisdiction that may not provide a level of data protection equivalent to the laws in your home country.

    Security Measures

    Milvidskiy Law Group P.C. maintains appropriate technical and organizational security measures to protect the security of your Personal Information against the loss, misuse, unauthorized access, disclosure or alteration.

    Links to Other Web Sites

    The privacy practices set forth in this Privacy Statement are for our web site only. This web site may contain links to other sites. Milvidskiy Law Group P.C. is not responsible for the privacy practices or the content of such sites. If you link to or otherwise visit any other site, please review the privacy policies posted at that site.

    Cookies and Passive Tracking

    A “cookie” is an element of data that can be sent to your browser. Your browser may then store it on your system based on the preferences you have set on your browser. Cookies gather information about your operating system including, but not limited to, browser type, and Internet Protocol (IP) address. The Web Site uses this information to analyze the traffic on our web site, and better serve you when you return to our web site. It is not our intention to use such information to personally identify a user. You have the option to configure your Internet browser to notify you when you receive a cookie, giving you the chance to decide whether to accept it. Further, you have the option to block all cookies. Please note, however, that if you refuse or otherwise block cookies you may not be able to use all of the functionality available on the web site.

    Access and Correction

    If you wish to access or update the Personal Information you submit through our web site, or to make any inquiries about the processing of such information, please contact us as described below. We provide individuals with access to their Personal Information where we believe appropriate, including in situations where you are entitled to access and review your Personal Information under applicable data protection and privacy laws.

    Google ReCaptcha Spam Protection

    This site is protected by reCAPTCHA and the Google.
    Privacy Policy and
    Terms of Serice apply.

    Revisions to this Privacy Statement

    Milvidskiy Law Group P.C. reserves the right to change this Privacy Policy from time to time. Please check the Privacy Statement frequently and particularly before you submit additional personal information via the Web Site. All revisions to this Privacy Statement will be posted on the web site via a link from the homepage. We also display the effective date of the Privacy Statement on the top of this page.

    Close

    Disclaimer

    Attorney Advertising. The information presented on this website is for informational purposes only and should not be construed as a legal advice. Viewing of, responding to, or otherwise transmitting the information on this website is not intended to create, and receipt of the same does not constitute, an attorney-client relationship. The information provided on this website should not be relied upon without first seeking professional legal counsel. The information on this website is provided only as general information which may or may not reflect the most current developments of law. Prior results and cases discussed on this website do not imply and do not guarantee a similar outcome in any other case. The links to other websites contained herein do not constitute a referral or endorsement of any kind.
    Close
    Sign up for our newsletter to be updated on all the latest news in Elder Law and Estate Planning.

      If you have any questions and would like to schedule a consultation, please fill out the form and our Client Services Coordinator will reach out to you to help you schedule and prepare for your appointment.

        This site is protected by reCAPTCHA and the Google.
        Privacy Policy and Terms of Service apply.

        Open chat Call us Close chat
        Start a conversation
        Team member Team member Team member
        Contact us to protect what matters most to you and your loved ones